Well Behaved Women…

Celebrating Women’s History Month with reflections on famous quotes by and about women.

Well behaved women seldom make history.

Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

What does it mean to be well-behaved? Consider the following questions. Does your answer change for any of them?

  • What does it mean to be a well-behaved woman?
  • What does it mean to be a well-behaved woman at work?
  • What does it mean to be a well-behaved woman in your family / community?

10 Ways to Make Everyday History

Wherever you are, as a woman, you have as much right to be there as anyone, and you can find the strength to exercise your power. Behave, or mis-behave, as you define it, in ways that make history. Perhaps not visible to the world at large, you make history as a shining example to the people in the room with you, no matter their gender.

  1. Wear It! Wear the red lipstick, the bright yellow dress, the dramatic hairstyle. Authenticity is the leader word of the decade, so bring your style, and celebrate the ‘you’ that makes you YOU. What you wear and how you look does not determine your value or how others may treat you.
  2. Ask It! Bring your questions to the situation. Chances are, others have the same question as you, but may be afraid to ask. Demonstrate that it’s okay to ask questions, even the ‘hard’ ones.
  3. Share It! Your ideas are valuable, and we need you to bring them forward. And when it is ignored but then brought forward later by a man, who gets accolades for saying the same thing you just said…move to point #4.
  4. Call It! You are not invisible, and you deserve to be heard. Call out situations where you’ve been missing from the conversation, and point out when what you said becomes amazing as it comes out of someone else’s mouth. “Thank you for summarizing the point I shared earlier…”
  5. Learn It! Work on learning about yourself and how you want to show up in the world. Keep learning, growing, and being curious.
  6. Teach It! Encourage others to be allies of women. Sometimes this may mean shining the light on women who think it is okay for a man to be direct, but get annoyed by the same behavior in women. Same goes for men. Ask, ‘would you have had the same reaction if Jim said it as when Maria did?’
  7. Encourage It! Coach, listen, respect other women as they find their voice. Let other women know what you admire about them, and if they do something you find brave, tell them. We all need encouragement.
  8. Grow It! The children are our future, it is said. The way you behave, and allow others to behave, leaves a legacy that is seen by young eyes, hearts, and minds. You have an opportunity to shape the future.
  9. Break It! Chances are, somewhere in your life, you will be the first. The first college graduate, the first teacher, the first at a sport, the first, and ONLY, you. Sometimes the glass ceilings we most need to break are the ones we build around ourselves.
  10. Be It! You ARE enough. You are not TOO anything (pretty, smart, direct, emotional, serious, bold). Embrace your story.

Women are a powerful force in the global community, economy, and for the future. You, and your allies, help shape history for women by influencing where you are, everyday.

Embrace your power and (mis-)behave accordingly.

  11 comments for “Well Behaved Women…

  1. Dan Broady
    March 2, 2021 at 12:27 pm

    Very true on so many levels – the greatest woman in my life is not afraid to challenge the status quo! Or, should I say “misbehave”
    You go Gabriella Broady!

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 3, 2021 at 1:22 pm

      Thanks for always being my rock, and for making me laugh. Even more, thanks for supporting me in being myself, and having a voice.

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  2. March 2, 2021 at 2:29 pm

    Here you go again making “good trouble.” 🙂 The world needs more history-making women.

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 3, 2021 at 1:21 pm

      And strong allies like you, Tony. Thank you for your support, as always!

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  3. Susan Huebner
    March 2, 2021 at 5:28 pm

    This is a pointed, perfect entry on all the ways women can move into their authentic selves. Great ideas! Read and practice! Thanks Yellow Giraffe!

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 3, 2021 at 1:20 pm

      Having a strong, smart, beautiful role model like you has been an excellent way to learn from someone who embraces her story everyday! Thank you for your feedback!

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  4. Kristin Ford Hinrichs
    March 3, 2021 at 12:12 pm

    After an entire morning of DEI conversations….and the implications that I don’t have a voice because I am, after all, “just a white middle aged woman” – I spoke up and declared my purple-ness. Thank you, Gabriella for an extremely well-articulated reminder to challenge the stuff that we are, quite frankly, faced with most every day. What it means to be a good human, I believe, is simple empathy and seeking to understand whatever the person’s gender, visible or invisible “handicaps” and whatever race, ethnicity, sexual preference, et al. Inclusion is about both conscious and unconscious bias – but also challenges are deepest belief systems. Something that is knowledge based just does not “fix” this bias. The recognition/acceptance of ourselves and others is what will fix it. I know that it is a big battle – but one I am willing to fight for myself – and on behalf of – others. No, I will never know what it is to be African American. I will also never know what it is to be a white male. But I can ask – I can share – I can learn. Everyone has a voice. Everyone.

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    • March 3, 2021 at 1:19 pm

      Love your purple-ness, Kristin. Bring it! You are one of the strongest, most fearless women I have the privilege of knowing.

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  5. Diane P Autey
    March 3, 2021 at 7:04 pm

    Well said, my friend. Thank you for your boldness and being a shining example!

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 3, 2021 at 7:22 pm

      Appreciate the feedback and kind words, Diane! We all are good examples, and learning ourselves, every day.

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  6. March 29, 2021 at 5:24 pm

    Hey hey!!!!

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